The Melancholy

The idea that life and nature are not immortal, live and die, are not stable, we are overwhelmed to the point that we seize us by a sadness that spoils the enjoyment of beauty for its transience. But if the world around us is temporary, if nature is constantly changing, we are also transient, temporal, mortal.

Our ability to love called libido whose burden is placed on an object is released when we lose, it is subtracted in order to take other objects as substitutes, ie moves to new ones, although I may return temporarily to a normal process of what we call grief. This process can be painful and that I even have knowledge of what has been lost in the duel, not so easily resign himself to part with their love object, so that in their zeal to keep it able to introject and identify with it, maintaining a certain extent their relationship and somehow denying the loss. This is how a match can be transformed into a melancholy.

Melancholy is psychologically characterized by a mood deeply painful, a cessation of interest in the outside world, a loss of ability to love in general inhibition of all functions and decreased self-esteem.

In melancholia the subject unconscious has suffered a loss (a difference in the match, the subject does not know what has been lost) affected by an offense or a disappointment inflicted by loved or equivalent (which may have happened in reality or no). In this sense we must take into account that loving relationships are characterized by ambivalence, which means that the libido put on an object (the beloved, the ideal, country, freedom, etc..) is accompanied by feelings of both love and hatred are at stake and can cause conflicts with the purpose of the relationship. These conflicts were kept in the "outside" with the beloved object are transferred to a conflict between the ego and the moral conscience of the subject. This is because what we alluded earlier: the self in its quest to maintain its introjected object may , transforming it into a part of the self, identifying with him through a process of regression of narcissistic object choice to narcissism.

The person may externalize this conflict in the reproach of having the desired object loss or even be guilty of it. Continued reproaches and accusations with which you agree to be overwhelming. In fact, these criticisms are directed at another person, lost erotic object, but turned against the self. Freud says: "The woman who pities her husband was bound to be as futile as it actually accuses the husband its uselessness, whatever the meaning given to these words. " They are like self-punishment is achieved with a vengeance and a torment to those you love by the disease and for those who can not directly demonstrate their hostility.

They are people who are impoverished, small, often suffer from insomnia, refused food, do not perform at work, do not believe worthy of anyone's estimation, humble themselves before others and pity to his people, their families and friends, to be linked to a despicable person like them. And these things they say, communicated throughout the world as if this lowering found a sadistic satisfaction, a satisfaction of trends of hatred that are geared towards that object, but is are rolled back to the self of the subject.

This need can entertain suicidal self-punishment that makes it very dangerous melancholy. The subject covers and in some cases run their own destruction without realizing that this act is that you want to kill another.

If you have contemplated suicide, ask yourself: who want to kill? and please consult a psychoanalyst.