Not go to school!

I will not go to school!

Holiday season. March, month of start of classes. For some children, synonymous with joy and excitement to reconnect with classmates and friends and adventure games, to know their new teachers and teachers, for wearing their new school supplies. For others, an experience that is far away from the fun and can get to become a really unpleasant experience. For parents of these children face a difficult situation to which they are often overwhelmed and disoriented.

I will not go to school! Or what is the same: "I belly ache?" I have a headache?, "I have wanted to throw up?, Are phrases that are on either day of absence. More 'pain?, More absences become a vicious circle that causes more stress on the child as the accumulation of absences do not allow you to keep up with school and fulfill their tasks adequately. And parents because they must deal with a child who protest, cry or do not want to get up early, it takes to change, to take his breakfast, among many other behaviors that can be seen as "in slow motion? and generate a great family distress.

What parents can do in these cases? First, try to find the reason why the child does not want to school.

- If you frequent complaint of physical pain, consult your pediatrician can be a good measure to rule out any pathology. If the check indicates that the small clinical enjoys good health, then we must consider other alternatives.

- How does the child with his peers? Sometimes children do not have good relationship with peers, discuss, fight, and find ways to resolve the situation.

- Do you feel safe at school or can be found harassed or bullied by someone?

- Can complete the task alone or need additional assistance to do so? Do I have the suspicion that my child has a learning disability?

- How can I see your emotional state? Do you perceive anxious, depressed, decentralized, with fears?

- Are there stressors in the family? Clash of the parents work, divorce, death of a close relative?

Is essential to identify the cause of the problem to take immediate action in order to prevent further difficulties. Working together parents, physicians, school staff and mental health professionals will help in deciding the type of intervention required.

What I can do as a mother or father of a child who refuses to go to school?

- Do not cry, angry or threatening the child. It can be an immediate solution, but does not remedy the situation in the long term. The interest in what happens, dialogue, restraint and stimulus, will contribute to a successful resolution of the problem.

- If feigns illness, create a "level of disease?: Stay in bed, no visits from friends, playing computer, eating light meals, etc..

- If the disease was ruled out, the child must attend school.

- Praise the comments and positive behaviors in relation to the school. Ignore the negatives.

- Establish routines: best, if you start the night before. Leave your backpack ready, willing all his clothes in a way not to lose time, take bath, set a schedule to go to bed and sleep, and so on., Are practices that favor the change.

- Tell the child exactly what will happen, no "tricks? of any kind. If you must stay in school full time, do not tell "is just a bit?. If you tell us to go to find out who we really us and not someone else.

- Discuss what's happening with your teacher or staff level of the school cabinet.

When to seek professional help?

- If we see that our child is not feeling happy, sad, experiencing physical symptoms before going to school, have sleep problems or learning difficulties.

- If you as parents recognize that the situation we find ourselves not exceeded and that the method of settlement.

Remember: ask for help is not sign of weakness ... just the opposite.

And the bottom line: give our son all our love and care.